Ask QBQ! Author John Miller Your Questions

I am reading a book that is already changing the way I lead my family.

It is changing our daughter’s life. She is not quite two (that’s her below) and has so much life in front of her. But the impact from this book can begin affecting her life even as a toddler…and continue well into adulthood.

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The book is Parenting the QBQ Way, Expanded Edition: How to be an Outstanding Parent and Raise Great Kids Using the Power of Personal Accountability by John Miller.

If you listen to Dave Ramsey, read about business, or currently have a pulse, you have probably heard of John, AKA “The QBQ Guy.”

This is John’s fourth book. There are currently more than 1,000,000 copies in print. I would highly suggest checking out all of his books here.

What QBQ did for businesses like Dave Ramsey’s organization, this book can do for parents, if only we can get it in their hands. (NOTE: I just caught myself there…let me rephrase that in a QBQ…”What can I do to get this in the hands of more parents? What can I do to demonstrate parenting that would make others ask me where I learned it?”) This book is truly that powerful.

In two weeks (March 4-8) I will be doing a series specifically on parental leadership. John points out in Chapter 13 of the book:

We tend to teach others what we need to hear ourselves.

This has never been truer than it will be with this series. If you are looking for advice from a perfect parent, there is none. If you are looking for advice from a good parent, you are in the wrong place. If you are looking from advice from a parent who has messed up a lot, including this morning, but is learning, then join me in two weeks. Subscribe to my RSS feed or get posts via email (and get my free book as a bonus) so you don’t miss it!

Here is what the series will look like:

Monday, March 4: The Problem with Parents My Parenting Today

Tuesday, March 5: Book Review of Parenting the QBQ Way

Wednesday, March 6: QBQ Practice. This one should be fun.

Thursday, March 7: Interview with John Miller, Part One

Friday, March 8: Interview with John Miller, Part Two

Those last two days are where you come in.

What questions do you have for John Miller about parenting, life, or even business?

I will take your questions and ask them of John along with some of my own questions. Don’t limit them to just parenting questions as I will post the answers to the other questions in a future interview post.

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  • Cherish the toddler age. My daughter’s almost eight and now I see little girls like yours and get all mushy. The book sounds good. I read several parenting books over the past few years. One of my favorites was “Nurture Shock.”

    • And my daughter’s almost 16, Dan. Enjoy these days. It goes by so fast.

      My question for John: I’m not a perfect parent, my parents weren’t perfect parents, and my grandparents weren’t perfect parents either. For those of us with older kids (AKA teenagers), how do we deal with a past of parenting that may not have been as intentional as desired? What recommendations do you have for parents to kick-start their parental leadership after former lapses in leadership?

      • Really great question Jon!

      • Wade_Thorson

        Great questions Jon in regards to how to kick-start the perental leadership, I think that is true for most parents where they weren’t succesful in the beginning and now would like to improve things and make up for lost time.

  • I’ve placed my order for Parenting the QBQ Way and can’t wait to read it! This is my (long) question to John. “I enjoy the QBQ approach to life, business and parenting. I’ve found it so helpful and very easy to apply. I assume if we’re responsible for what our kids are doing “wrong” we must also be responsible for what they do right. If they are polite, kind, courageous, spiritual… it’s also because of how we parent. How can we encourage ourselves and other parents to see beyond the mess and look at the rewards?”

    • Oooh, good one! Encouragement is oxygen to the soul, right?

  • Sounds pretty cool Matt! Looking forward to it. QBQ definitely influences me daily. I’ll have to pickup a copy of Parenting the QBQ Way!

  • Sounds like a great series.

  • Wade_Thorson

    Thanks Matt for doing this series, I haven’t read Parenting teh QBQ Way yet, but I have read the QBQ book. The parenting side will be a great series, and will help me in parenting my 5 kids. I will put together a couple questions for you as well.

    • Look forward to them Wade!

      • Wade_Thorson

        One of the challeges I see with my kids would be trying to get them excited about changing how they look at these questions. What can I do to help my kids have a drive to change from asking IQs to personnally accountable questions.

  • lulu

    I believe one of the most important skills we can teach our children is to problem solve. This often includes accountability and consequences. We can talk until we are blue in the face, telling them to “put on a jacket” (I’m talking school aged children here) – we can explain that they will catch cold (which isn’t true – colds are viruses and are not transmitted through cold temperatures) or that they will freeze to death (which is probably an exaggeration, depending on where you live). Yet if we let them choose for themselves, be accountable for their actions, and they end up being cold – the lesson is learned, which they taught themselves. It’s hard not to constantly nag…I mean “shepherd” :-) but I would rather they learn at an early age that there are consequences for decisions – while the consequences are realitively minor. I also believe in allowing the child to make choices. It gives them power. Not the “I am so special” power that leads to a sense of entitlement – but the power of a voice and a choice. This sounds like an excellent resource for parents. Thanks for sharing.

    • Well said Lulu!

      Where did that myth of catching cold IN the cold come from anyway? Or not to swim for 30 minutes after eating? Or that reading in bad light ruins your eyes?

      I’d say my favorite parentism is when, in mid-June, a parent tells his or her four year-old in the store, “If you don’t behave right now, Santa Claus is not coming.”

      Why not something more practical? Like, “If you don’t start behaving, I am not fully funding your college fund this year.” That’d be funny.