There is no passion to be found playing small – in settling for a life that is less than the one you are capable of living.
A curious thought woke me up in the middle of the night recently. OK, it was ambulance sirens that actually woke me up, but the curious thought is what kept me up. “That could easily be me.”
Yikes! I came to grips with my own mortality at age 36 at 4:00 in the morning. That was…strange.
Not that I thought I was immortal. I figured I’d probably die someday. It just never occurred to me that it would be in my lifetime.
So, there I lie (or is it “lay?” Where is my grandmother when I need her?) in the early morning hours, pondering my own mortality. Pleasant.
One of my favorite things to do in January is take inventory of where I’m at in my life, both professionally and personally (family, health, etc.), and reflection is a great way to get started with this.
First, I take a look back at what I’ve done over the past year that DID work, and then I also recognize those things that DIDN’T work.
Next, I turn to goal setting to get pumped up (and prepped) for what I want to accomplish in the new year based on what I’ve learned.
But you know just as well as I do that sometimes we set goals, but then we fail to actually accomplish those goals.
If you’re anything like me and read more than a few blogs, you’ve endured a month-long series of year-in-review posts. So here is another one. 🙂
When I looked back on the year that was, I realized that it was a year of ups and downs, wild successes and miserable failures, excitement and boredom. In other words, it was just like any other year. It was a microcosm of life itself.
What else should we expect?
The truth is, in most regards, 2015 was my best year ever (thanks, Michael Hyatt!). In others, it was more of a struggle, but I know without a doubt that those things will improve in the coming year.
Last week, I wrote a post entitled, Why I’m Not Sharing My 2016 Goals This Year. In it, I explained that research shows that we shouldn’t share our goals publicly. But who should we be sharing them with?
To best answer that question, I’ll share what has and what hasn’t worked for me.
Who NOT to Share Your Goals With
1. Anyone and everyone
I covered this last week, but it bears repeating. Don’t share your goals with anyone who will listen. The act of doing so feels too much like an accomplishment.
Don’t post them on social media or write about them on your blog. Unless you have a very compelling reason to do so.
Almost every time I have done this, I have failed to reach my goal.
In years past, I’ve often shared my goals with just about anyone who will hear (or read) them. I’ve shouted them from the rooftops as if to say, “Look at my incredible ambition.” But I’m no longer doing that. Here’s why.
Why We Share Our Goals
There are many reasons why we might share our goals with others, but I believe there are three primary reasons.
1. We are looking for accountability.
This is the most common reason we share our goals, rather it be with a small group of people or publicly on our blog or elsewhere.
What better way to hold ourselves accountable than to share our goals with hundreds (or more) of people, right? It’s one thing to fall short of our goals when only we know them. It’s another thing entirely when others are expecting you to achieve them, rooting for you, or waiting for you to fall.