Are you tired of not achieving your goals? Sick of getting off course or losing focus? Ready to reach your full potential? Then stop fighting battles that shouldn’t be fought, at least by you.
“I feel like I always get dragged into others’ messes,” said one reader via email recently.
“One day it’s a family squabble, the next it’s someone at work who’s whining about her boss, and the next it’s…” He was at the end of his rope. Something had to change.
So I replied simply with this:
Stop fighting battles you shouldn’t be fighting.
How do I know what battles I should be fighting?
The image on the right is the most simplistic explanation I can offer.
Battles you should fight
Your path to achieve any goal, to live out any dream, and to reach your full potential will be full of roadblocks. There will be battles along the way that should be fought.
Some of these battles are internal, such as addictions, bad habits, or unforgiveness. Some battles involve other people or overcoming obstacles such as a lack of money or education. These battles must be fought.
You will never start a successful widget-making company without some money, so you might have to work three part-time jobs to save up the money. That is a battle worth fighting.
If your goal is to be the leader of a Fortune 500 company, you will have to fight through the negative self-talk that says you will never get there. For some period of time, you will have to slow down or even stop to fight that battle.
These battles consistently keep you on the right path toward your goals. They are in the way of your goal, not to the side.
Battles you should not fight
The battles you should not fight are any battle that takes you off course.
They aren’t in the way of your goal. They require you to not only stop, but to venture off the path of success.
Notice in the image what happens when you fight a battle that is on the path. When you complete the battle, you continue on the path. But what happens when you go off the path to fight a battle you shouldn’t? You have to backtrack just to get back to where you were. You’ve not only lost time, but you are no closer to your goal.
These battles include:
- listening to gossip (read how to stop gossip)
- engaging in family schisms
- finding someone to blame (as opposed to moving on)
- defending yourself against your critics (here’s the best way to handle critics)
- continually cleaning up others’ messes
The question you must ask yourself
When determining rather or not to fight a battle, ask yourself this question:
Is this battle on the path toward my goal?
If yes, fight.
If no, walk away.
When you stop fighting battles you shouldn’t be fighting, you are left with the energy to fight the ones that matter.
You will reach your goals. You will stay focused. You will reach your full potential.
You will change the world.
Question: What battles have you stopped fighting that had you off the path toward your goals? You can leave a comment by clicking here.