If You Can’t Say Something Nice | Overcome Negative Self-Talk

Do yourself a favor…the next time you start to say something bad about yourself, SHUT UP! Seriously, shut up. Don’t say it.

Shut up negative self-talk

Your negative thoughts don’t have to become reality. They can’t be, because you are too valuable to live that way. (Tweet That)

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You can think it, but don’t say it. Don’t mumble it under your breathe. Don’t say it to someone else. Don’t write it down.

Your negative thoughts don’t have to become reality. In fact they can’t be, because you are too valuable to the rest of us to live that way.

So shut up.

Your parents or grandparents probably told you:

If you can’t say anything nice, don’t say anything at all.

The same applies to talking to and about yourself.

I’m not telling you to live in fantasy land. The world will keep you from ever doing that. It will knock you down, drag you around, tell you lies, and leave you the cleaning bill. I am telling you to control what only you can…your words about yourself.

And the Lord said “Shut Up!”

If you know the story of John the Baptist, you know that he was born to parents well beyond their years. When Zechariah, John’s father, was told his wife would soon give birth to a son, he verbally doubted the angel Gabriel.

Gabriel’s response was classic:

I am Gabriel. I stand in the presence of God, and I have been sent to speak to you and to tell you this good news. And now you will be silent and not able to speak until the day this happens, because you did not believe my words, which will come true at their appointed time.

In other words, “Do you know who I am and who sent me? Now, shut up or you’ll talk yourself out of a son.

When the Israelites were sent to capture Jericho, God told them to march the city for seven days…in silence. He knew they would mumble. He knew they would talk to each other and soon rumors would spread. Before long, they’d all be grumbling. Just like it did forty years before.

Twelve times they walked around in silence as God had told them.

Do not give a war cry, do not raise your voices, do not say a word until the day I tell you to shout. Then shout!

In other words, they shut up. They learned that if they couldn’t say something nice about themselves to say nothing at all.

Now you do the same…stop saying negative things about yourself (and others for that matter). If you can’t, shut up. Say nothing at all. The silence is better than the negativity.

What do you need to stop telling yourself?

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  • Kirbie Earley

    Boy this is a great lesson! We are our own worst enemies most of the time! I recently had some professional photographs done and the photographer, a high school classmate of one of my daughters, kept saying “oh that was beautiful”…in my head, I was saying “you have to say that so I keep trying to smile”. My problem is that I hate having my picture taken, so my smile is not usually genuine unless someone makes me laugh (which wasn’t happening). I also went into it telling myself that I don’t smile well for pictures (thus setting myself up for…not smiling well for pictures). I haven’t seen the outcome yet, but I know that I got inside my own head.
    I’m a work in progress…

    • Aren’t we all Kirbie!

      Your story is a great illustration of this principle.

  • brentmkelly

    Great message. Not only are we what we think about, but what we say about ourselves. Thanks for sharing. That’s why I try to read positive material and focus my time and energy around other positive people. Negativity and slowly creep and overwhelm us if we are not careful.

  • Ouch! This message hit the spot today, as usual. I have been telling myself quite a few negative messages lately. The one this morning was “What was I thinking? I can’t have a full-time job and homeschool my kindergarten age child! I can’t handle ONE more thing!” So, following your advice, I’ll just shut up and trust that we have made a conscious decision for the well-being of our daughter. We did our homework and we approached it in prayer. God will provide the grace and the time to succeed. Thanks, Matt!

    • Hitting the spot is usually my intent :) Awesome to hear that Lily!

  • Something is coming to mind about loving our neighbors as we love ourselves. . . so, if we can talk to ourselves the same way our best friends would talk to us, then we are training ourselves to speak more positively to others.

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