“I hate my parents.” I was never supposed to speak those words. I am a Christian, after all, and a good Christian never says that about anyone. But it was the truth and I had never told the truth before about that.
“What I want to say is…”
What I wanted to say was that I had forgiven them.
What I wanted to say was that I loved them both and honored them as I was supposed to.
But inside, I boiled with contempt. And for the past thirty years, I kept it inside. Because I said what I was supposed to say.
Jesus said in the Gospel of John:
You will know the truth, and the truth will set you free.
But what if we change just one word?
You will speak the truth, and the truth will set you free.
Feelings are feelings. Speaking the truth will set you free, however harsh, unpopular, or painful it may be to admit.
Repressing honest feelings is like trying to hold a beach ball under water. It takes all of your energy to do so and eventually it will explode out of the water and smack you in the face.
True healing begins only when we speak the truth.
True freedom comes only when we speak the truth.
The air seems fresher, our energy levels suddenly soar, and our ability to lead, to love, to live the life we were meant for suddenly seems possible.