Imagine for a moment that you are twenty-two years old, your entire life in front of you…and you’re headed for combat.
Maybe that’s not hard to imagine. You’ve been that kid headed off to war, scared out of your mind, not knowing what lies ahead. Most of us haven’t and we salute you for your service.
Before you go, you meet with a psychologist. It’s normal to do so. Their job is to prepare you for the horrors you’re about to face and, eventually, the return home. The psychologist tells you that when you return, there are only two options:
Return with Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder.
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This well-intentioned psychologist has pigeon-holed this impressionable kid into forming only two paths in his mental map, average and bad.
We do the same things to ourselves.
Grant practically leaped out of his car as he arrived for our third coaching session.
Over the previous two days, I’d been walking with him to help him overcome adversity and learned helplessness. If you missed those two sessions, check out part one and part two now. You’ll want to read them first.
In today’s session I would share with him the last three steps to overcoming adversity and helplessness. I’ll let you listen in our conversation below.
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After a little small talk, we dove into the topic of the day. I recapped the first three steps from the day before:
Yesterday I wrote:
Helplessness is learned. We learn it from our own experiences and from others. It’s not something that is ingrained in us. There is a way out. What separates those who react well from those who don’t is their conditioning. The good news is you can recondition yourself. You can overcome your learned helplessness.
That’s what I told Grant after he came to me at the end of his rope.
So how do you recondition yourself to handle adversity? How do you overcome helplessness and use problems as catalysts rather than allow them to be dead ends?
There are six steps that I shared with Grant that I am now sharing with you. They will recondition you to make most of difficult times.
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Grant had his list of things that made him feel helpless ready when we met again. (Remember, I had asked him and you to make your list. Did you? If not, stop now and think through that.)