When I was a teenager, I was obsessed with one thing (and it’s not what you think). I woke up thinking about it, I went to bed thinking about it, and it consumed my mind throughout the day. After school, I could not wait for it. I planned every minute of my day around it. I was obsessed…and highly successful at this one thing.
For me, that one thing was golf. And the lessons I learned reaching the top levels of that game have benefited me throughout my life.
If you are like almost everyone I know, there is something you’ve always wanted to do, but someone talked you out of it. Someone told you that you’re not talented enough. Someone told you that you’re too old or too young. Too slow, too stupid, or too poor. And now, you’re left wondering what might have been. Now what?
Catherine Lanigan was like that. All throughout her young life, she considered herself a talented writer. Her teachers told she was gifted and maybe that she could make it someday as a writer.
So she entered college full of hope. She even registered for a senior level class in creative writing taught by a visiting professor from Harvard. When she wrote her very first short story for the class, the professor asked to see her.
He was the prototypical college English professor. He was 6′ 6″ tall, wore tweed coat with elbow patches and the horn-rimmed glasses. He also had the smug look of a tenured English professor (sorry if that is you, but I had three such professors in college and they all had a smug look).
Who are your biggest critics? Think about that question for a moment. Who are the people in your life who are most critical of your dreams? Who are the people that leave you feeling depleted, deflated and depressed? In today’s episode you will learn the 1 thing that will silence your critics forever…
We all have had a critic in our lives at one point or another. You know, the type of person that when you leave their presence, your energy is depleted, your joy stripped, and your dreams crushed.
The one thing I see repeatedly with ultra-successful people in any profession is that they are intentional about who they surround themselves with. Are you?
“Why don’t you get a real job?”
“You’re wasting your time on that.”
“You’ll never make any money doing that.”
A couple of years ago, my friend Bryan Allain left a secure job at a Fortune 500 company, where he’d been slowly climbing the corporate ladder for nearly a decade, to venture out on his own as a writer. When I asked him how his colleagues reacted, he said they were surprisingly supportive, some even envious. But something disturbed him.
Every conversation ended the same way. “I wish I could do that,” they would say. “Well, you can, you know,” Bryan would respond. To which they would usually list out the reasons why they felt they couldn’t. They wouldn’t know where to begin or what to do. They’d be scared of losing their health benefits or risking their family’s well-being. What if you failed, they wondered. What then?
The Problem isn’t Fear
This bothered Bryan because he felt like what they were really saying was that they were afraid—and rightly so. Quitting a job to chase a dream is anything but safe. If you’re not feeling a little insecure about taking such a leap, then you probably haven’t considered the cost. The problem, then, isn’t the fear; that’s natural. It’s that many get afraid and stay there.
Growing up I’d always been a Tiger Woods fan (until more recent indiscretions changed that). As an aspiring professional golfer, I spent hundreds of hours studying his every move. How he swung the club, how he practiced, how he worked out. I sought to model my game after his.
There was one giant problem with this strategy, though.
I wasn’t Tiger Woods. (And, surprisingly, I am still not.)
We have different body types, different styles of play, and very different approaches to the mental side of the game. Sure, there were things that I could learn from him, but trying to be like him was a big mistake.
Imagine having everything you’ve ever wanted within reach. In fact, everyone is already congratulating you on your achievement. You’ve done it. You’ve reached the rarified air of the truly elite. Now what?
If you’re Ted Williams in 1941, you put it all on the line. That’s why he is one of the greats. I’ll share his story in a moment.
Your big goal
What’s your biggest goal? The one overarching thing you want to achieve in life? The one thing that wakes you up in the morning and keeps you up at night?
Imagine hitting the goal. Imagine the feeling of success. Imagine the satisfaction that comes with achieving it.
Now, go find out what you are truly capable of.
The worst part of making excuses isn’t the missed opportunities. It isn’t the guilt you might feel afterwards for lying to yourself. It’s not the money they will cost you, the relationships they will end, or the broken dreams. The worst part of making excuses, the hidden danger, is that you eventually start to believe them.
The longer you make excuses, the more you actually start to believe them. The longer you tell any lie, the most likely it is that someday you will no longer tell it as a lie, but as the truth.
You no longer cringe when you realize that what you are saying is false. The conviction you once felt disappears. The lie becomes the truth. The excuse becomes reality.
What are your passions?
If you read my recent post, Do You Even Know What Your True Dreams Are?, you know what I am truly asking. Even if you didn’t, you still know what I mean on some level. What wakes you up in the morning. What keeps you up at night? What has always fascinated you? What questions do you want answered?
Now, how can you make money from those passions? That’s what today’s episode is about.
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Today, I interview former rockstar (seriously, he toured the country in a rock band) A.J. Amyx.
We discuss his background, what it was like to give up his identity as a rockstar and trade it for something so much greater, and how to get paid for your passions.
Aj Amyx is the Creator’s Mentor, Host of AMYXtv and founder of the Passionpreneur Academy.
Some people say he’s a business coach, smart marketer, consultant, brother or a free spirit. At his core, he just wants to help people get paid from their passions and make a difference in the world – since that is what he gets to do everyday.
What if I told you that most people don’t even know what their true dreams are?
What if I told you that the things you say are your dreams aren’t actually your true dreams? That they don’t really wake you up in the morning, keep you up at night, or keep you going when life gets tough.
It’s hard to believe, but it’s true. Yes, you have dreams. You have goals. You have aspirations. But do you know the things deep down inside that drive you?
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So what are your true dreams?