Is it possible to make a living teaching what you love? How about building a 7-figure income doing so? Oh sure, you know it’s possible…after all, Tony Robbins has done just that. So have countless others. But those are the “special people” right? Wrong. Regular people, just like you and me, are doing exactly that. And today, I’ll show you how you can, too.
I don’t know about you, but often when I see online teachers and “gurus,” one (or more) of four thoughts comes to mind:
- This guy’s a scam artist (and while that is rare, it is sometimes the case).
- This guy is good…so good that I could never be like him.
- I could do that…but why am I not? What does he have that I don’t?
- I wish I knew how to do that.
Why does success feel so elusive sometimes? I know that for me, it feels that way when I overcomplicate the formula. The fact is that the formula for success is simple. Today, I’ll share it with you.
When I took the time recently to review some of my greatest successes in life, I realized that they all followed the same formula. I accomplished what I accomplished because each and every time I did what I am about to teach you.
The formula was always surprisingly simple and easy to follow, too.
Why are you often afraid to fail? Why does it paralyze you from continuing to pursue your dream, take the next right action, or act on your calling? For most of us, failure is devastating and demoralizing. But it doesn’t have to be that way.
A Lesson in Failure from my Father
I’ll never forget the day my dad taught me how to handle failure. When I was growing up playing competitive golf, my dad often served as my caddie. He was also a teaching professional who’d played in more PGA Tour events (two) than I ever did (none). So he knew a thing or two about the game.
On this particular day, I’d just hit a miserable putt and immediately hung my head in shame. I knew as soon as I’d hit it that the ball would not go into the hole.
So I muttered something sarcastic to myself, complained out loud about my effort, and pouted while the ball rolled past the hole. That’s when my dad asked me, “What are you paying attention to right now?”
Do you remember when you always won? When your imagination allowed you to experience the thrill of victory over and over again? The greatest gift you can give anyone, including yourself, is the opportunity and encouragement to imagine great things.
When I was a kid, I always won. I don’t mean that literally, but in my imagination it was always the bottom of the ninth inning. The World Series was always on the line. And I always hit the game-winning home run.
In basketball, I must have hit tens of thousands of game winning shots in my mind. There were always five seconds left…
“5…4…3…2…1…the shot is off…and it’s GOOD! The crowd goes wild!”
If a real basketball was involved and I missed, I was always fouled. I always had a chance to win.
As I grew older, I played golf. Every day, I faced putts to win the U.S. Open or the Masters. Sometimes on the practice green, sometimes in my apartment or dorm room, but most often in my mind.
There is a single word in the English language that will bury you. It’s the worst four-letter word of them all (psychologically speaking). It’s the word “don’t.”
The problem with this word is that your subconscious mind doesn’t understand the word “don’t.”
To illustrate, try this:
Don’t think of a piping hot pizza. Don’t picture it coming out of the oven with steam rising off the top of the bubbling cheese and glistening pepperoni. Don’t think of the amazing smells wafting from the kitchen.
Just writing that caused me to drool on my keyboard. If you are reading this at approximately 10am, my apologies. Treat yourself to a mid-morning snack.
You thought of the pizza, didn’t you? That’s how our minds work.
So you’ve been knocked down. Now what? How do you bounce back from defeat? That’s what today’s episode is all about.
The reality of life is that you will suffer defeat. There will be times when you choke, succumb to pressure, or just lose it in the furnace that is a stressful and important situation.
At almost every major golf tournament each year, someone “blows it.” Someone who has never won a major championship before (there are four each year), leads with 18 holes to go. Or perhaps even only three or four holes. And they “find a way to lose.”