Is it possible to make a living teaching what you love? How about building a 7-figure income doing so? Oh sure, you know it’s possible…after all, Tony Robbins has done just that. So have countless others. But those are the “special people” right? Wrong. Regular people, just like you and me, are doing exactly that. And today, I’ll show you how you can, too.
I don’t know about you, but often when I see online teachers and “gurus,” one (or more) of four thoughts comes to mind:
- This guy’s a scam artist (and while that is rare, it is sometimes the case).
- This guy is good…so good that I could never be like him.
- I could do that…but why am I not? What does he have that I don’t?
- I wish I knew how to do that.
Why does success feel so elusive sometimes? I know that for me, it feels that way when I overcomplicate the formula. The fact is that the formula for success is simple. Today, I’ll share it with you.
When I took the time recently to review some of my greatest successes in life, I realized that they all followed the same formula. I accomplished what I accomplished because each and every time I did what I am about to teach you.
The formula was always surprisingly simple and easy to follow, too.
Why are you often afraid to fail? Why does it paralyze you from continuing to pursue your dream, take the next right action, or act on your calling? For most of us, failure is devastating and demoralizing. But it doesn’t have to be that way.
A Lesson in Failure from my Father
I’ll never forget the day my dad taught me how to handle failure. When I was growing up playing competitive golf, my dad often served as my caddie. He was also a teaching professional who’d played in more PGA Tour events (two) than I ever did (none). So he knew a thing or two about the game.
On this particular day, I’d just hit a miserable putt and immediately hung my head in shame. I knew as soon as I’d hit it that the ball would not go into the hole.
So I muttered something sarcastic to myself, complained out loud about my effort, and pouted while the ball rolled past the hole. That’s when my dad asked me, “What are you paying attention to right now?”
Do you remember when you always won? When your imagination allowed you to experience the thrill of victory over and over again? The greatest gift you can give anyone, including yourself, is the opportunity and encouragement to imagine great things.
When I was a kid, I always won. I don’t mean that literally, but in my imagination it was always the bottom of the ninth inning. The World Series was always on the line. And I always hit the game-winning home run.
In basketball, I must have hit tens of thousands of game winning shots in my mind. There were always five seconds left…
“5…4…3…2…1…the shot is off…and it’s GOOD! The crowd goes wild!”
If a real basketball was involved and I missed, I was always fouled. I always had a chance to win.
As I grew older, I played golf. Every day, I faced putts to win the U.S. Open or the Masters. Sometimes on the practice green, sometimes in my apartment or dorm room, but most often in my mind.
There is a single word in the English language that will bury you. It’s the worst four-letter word of them all (psychologically speaking). It’s the word “don’t.”
The problem with this word is that your subconscious mind doesn’t understand the word “don’t.”
To illustrate, try this:
Don’t think of a piping hot pizza. Don’t picture it coming out of the oven with steam rising off the top of the bubbling cheese and glistening pepperoni. Don’t think of the amazing smells wafting from the kitchen.
Just writing that caused me to drool on my keyboard. If you are reading this at approximately 10am, my apologies. Treat yourself to a mid-morning snack.
You thought of the pizza, didn’t you? That’s how our minds work.
So you’ve been knocked down. Now what? How do you bounce back from defeat? That’s what today’s episode is all about.
The reality of life is that you will suffer defeat. There will be times when you choke, succumb to pressure, or just lose it in the furnace that is a stressful and important situation.
At almost every major golf tournament each year, someone “blows it.” Someone who has never won a major championship before (there are four each year), leads with 18 holes to go. Or perhaps even only three or four holes. And they “find a way to lose.”
Growing up I’d always been a Tiger Woods fan (until more recent indiscretions changed that). As an aspiring professional golfer, I spent hundreds of hours studying his every move. How he swung the club, how he practiced, how he worked out. I sought to model my game after his.
There was one giant problem with this strategy, though.
I wasn’t Tiger Woods. (And, surprisingly, I am still not.)
We have different body types, different styles of play, and very different approaches to the mental side of the game. Sure, there were things that I could learn from him, but trying to be like him was a big mistake.
Imagine having everything you’ve ever wanted within reach. In fact, everyone is already congratulating you on your achievement. You’ve done it. You’ve reached the rarified air of the truly elite. Now what?
If you’re Ted Williams in 1941, you put it all on the line. That’s why he is one of the greats. I’ll share his story in a moment.
Your big goal
What’s your biggest goal? The one overarching thing you want to achieve in life? The one thing that wakes you up in the morning and keeps you up at night?
Imagine hitting the goal. Imagine the feeling of success. Imagine the satisfaction that comes with achieving it.
Now, go find out what you are truly capable of.
When I was still in college, my father taught me a lesson that will stay with me my entire life. He taught me that great leaders, those people who attract followers and leave powerful legacies, know when it’s time to instruct and when it’s time to encourage.
My Dad and I invited my friend Ryan for a round of golf one afternoon. The weather and the course were perfect and I was playing lights out. Ryan, on the other hand, was not.
Ryan and I had grown up together and for a long time viewed each other as equals at golf. Then, during our senior year of high school, his father was diagnosed with terminal brain cancer. Ryan didn’t touch a club for nearly three years.
On this day, I viewed Ryan as someone in need of help. He was hitting the ball all over the place. His tee shots were usually in the trees amd the rest of his shots weren’t any better. It wasn’t the Ryan that I knew. My heart went out to him so I tried to help in the only way I knew how:
I instructed him.
The worst part of making excuses isn’t the missed opportunities. It isn’t the guilt you might feel afterwards for lying to yourself. It’s not the money they will cost you, the relationships they will end, or the broken dreams. The worst part of making excuses, the hidden danger, is that you eventually start to believe them.
The longer you make excuses, the more you actually start to believe them. The longer you tell any lie, the most likely it is that someday you will no longer tell it as a lie, but as the truth.
You no longer cringe when you realize that what you are saying is false. The conviction you once felt disappears. The lie becomes the truth. The excuse becomes reality.