Do you remember when you always won? When your imagination allowed you to experience the thrill of victory over and over again? The greatest gift you can give anyone, including yourself, is the opportunity and encouragement to imagine great things.
When I was a kid, I always won. I don’t mean that literally, but in my imagination it was always the bottom of the ninth inning. The World Series was always on the line. And I always hit the game-winning home run.
In basketball, I must have hit tens of thousands of game winning shots in my mind. There were always five seconds left…
“5…4…3…2…1…the shot is off…and it’s GOOD! The crowd goes wild!”
If a real basketball was involved and I missed, I was always fouled. I always had a chance to win.
As I grew older, I played golf. Every day, I faced putts to win the U.S. Open or the Masters. Sometimes on the practice green, sometimes in my apartment or dorm room, but most often in my mind.
What do you really want to be? What do you really want to do? What do you really want to have?
Those are three powerful questions that you probably rarely ask yourself. More likely you say things like:
“If only I ____.”
“If I could just ____.”
“I’d settle for ____.”
And you sell yourself short. You aim for mediocrity…and that is exactly what you get. But there is always a gnawing deep in your soul to be more, to do more, to have more.
Today you’ll learn a technique that will make it possible to experience more.
There is a single word in the English language that will bury you. It’s the worst four-letter word of them all (psychologically speaking). It’s the word “don’t.”
The problem with this word is that your subconscious mind doesn’t understand the word “don’t.”
To illustrate, try this:
Don’t think of a piping hot pizza. Don’t picture it coming out of the oven with steam rising off the top of the bubbling cheese and glistening pepperoni. Don’t think of the amazing smells wafting from the kitchen.
Just writing that caused me to drool on my keyboard. If you are reading this at approximately 10am, my apologies. Treat yourself to a mid-morning snack.
You thought of the pizza, didn’t you? That’s how our minds work.
I love this quote from Will Smith:
“In my mind, I’ve always been an A-list Hollywood superstar. Y’all just didn’t know yet.”
“In my mind, I’ve always been an A-list Hollywood superstar. Y’all just didn’t know yet.” – Will Smith (Tweet That) | Share this Graphic on Pinterest | Share on Facebook
That is a powerful example of having the right mindset. He knew what he was before anyone else did. That is the attitude that got him to the top.
What about you? What’s hiding inside of you that the world will one day see?
Author of a best-selling novel? Creator of an innovative product? CEO of a Fortune 500 company? Parent to a yet unborn child?
Do you know what really happens inside of you when you write a thank you note?
What if I told you that thousands of years of scientific research showed me that one note, once a week can change who you are? Would you join the Thank You Revolution then?
When you force yourself once a week to write a thank you note, here’s what happens:
You recall the event and person for which you are thankful.
When you sit down to write that note and require yourself to think of something from the previous week for which you are thankful, you will recall certain events. Think of them and then allow yourself to progress to step two.
Do you want to know the secret to smiling more often?
Of course you do! Smiling is the result of feeling happy, right?
Not exactly. In fact, the secret to smiling more often is this…
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If you could only eat one thing all day, first thing in the morning, what would it be?
Would you feed yourself small amounts of sugar and fat? Or would you overload on the good stuff, greens, fruits, lean proteins, etc.?
I sure hope you would say the latter. The same is true with our words.
Like a cloak
There is an old proverb that says, “A man’s curses will fall and wrap themselves around him like a cloak.” Imagine that for a moment. Your words…wrapped around you all day long.
The worse the words, the more tightly they grip you, strangling your creativity, your passion, and your peace right from you. The uglier the words, the uglier the garment.
You face a choice first thing in the morning: Speak words of beauty or speak words of ugly. (No, I am not entirely sure that sentence is grammatically correct, but it gets the point across)
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You had great expectations, but you fell short. Now what?
How do you let go of expectations and regain your confidence?
As promised yesterday, today I give you my five steps for letting go of expectations and getting your confidence back.
- Give yourself grace. Be nice to yourself. Don’t call yourself a name or tell others how pathetic you are. Talk to yourself as you would a hurting friend. It really is going to be OK.
There is a fine line that you must walk between being confident and not holding on to unrealistic expectations.
We all must balance the two and in a way do a delicate little dance in our minds every moment of our lives.
NOTE: For my audio listeners who made it this far wondering, “where is my audio option?” there is none today. I am writing this from a train en route from Boston to New York and honestly don’t want to get funny looks recording it on the train.
If you’re a long-time reader, you know that I grew up playing competitive golf. During each tournament, I would constantly call on my memory bank of past shots. Each shot, in some way, reminded me of another similar shot that I had pulled off successfully. Same club, same wind, same situation, often even the exact same location on the same hole.
What do you see when you look at yourself?
Do you see someone who is successful, talented, and personable?
Do you see someone who is creative, energetic, and attractive?
Do you see yourself as a necessary part of the team? As a necessary part of the world?
Or do you see yourself as unproductive, mediocre, ugly, unneeded, or a myriad of other negative things?
Sometimes what you see in yourself is due only to a poor reflection.