In every part of life, we usually get what we expect.
If you wake up expecting your boss to be a jerk to you, he probably will be. If you drive to the gym expecting to be unfocused during your workout, you’ll find a gym full of squirrels. If you expect your child to act up at just the wrong time, guess what he or she does?
You get what you expect, good or bad.
Whether it was him or someone else, it illustrates how our expectations create our reality so well.
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The wise clerk
A new family moved to town one day and the husband went to the new grocery store. As he was checking out, the clerk greeted him with a warm smile and asked if he was new to town.
“Yes sir, we just moved here,” the man said.
“Great, welcome to town,” the clerk responded. “Anything I can help you with to help you around town?”
“Not that I can think of,” the man replied.” Except for one thing. What are the people like here in this town?”
The clerk thought for a moment and asked the man, “What were they like in the town you just left?”
“Oh, they were the nicest people. So warm and welcoming, kind and just fun to be a part of. We were so sad to go.”
“Well then, that’s just what you’ll find here, too.”
Days later another man walked into the store. Also new to town, the man asked the clerk the same question, “What are the people like here in this town?”
The clerk responded with the same question as well, “What were they like in the town you just left?”
“Oh boy,” the man replied. “They were awful. Rude, inconsiderate, and difficult to live with. We’re so glad to be out of there.”
Again, the clerk responded exactly as he had to the first man. “Well then, that’s just what you’ll find here, too.”
What you expect is what you get.
Choose your favorites
Years ago, my dad told me a story of a golfer he’d known. He was interviewed during a tournament and asked what his favorite type of greens were to putt on.
His answer that time? Bermudagrass greens. That’s what they were playing on that week.
But the real answer was whatever greens they were playing on that week. If the question was asked weeks later it might be bentgrass.
His favorite greens were always that week’s greens. He expected the best and the best came to him.
The bottom line
If you believe that we get what we expect, then what can you do today to shift your expectations to something positive?
What negative expectation can you replace today with a positive expectation?
The bottom line is that you choose your expectations. They aren’t decided for you, given to you, placed upon you, or a result of your circumstances. They are chosen.
Question: What expectations do you have for today?