“I hate my parents.” I was never supposed to speak those words. I am a Christian, after all, and a good Christian never says that about anyone. But it was the truth and I had never told the truth before about that.

Repressing true feelings is like trying to hold a beach ball underwater
Repressing feelings is like holding a beach ball underwater. It saps all of your energy and you get smacked in the face. (Click to Tweet)

“What I want to say is…”

What I wanted to say was that I had forgiven them.

What I wanted to say was that I loved them both and honored them as I was supposed to.

But inside, I boiled with contempt. And for the past thirty years, I kept it inside. Because I said what I was supposed to say.

Jesus said in the Gospel of John:

You will know the truth, and the truth will set you free.

But what if we change just one word?

You will speak the truth, and the truth will set you free.

Feelings are feelings. Speaking the truth will set you free, however harsh, unpopular, or painful it may be to admit.

Repressing honest feelings is like trying to hold a beach ball under water. It takes all of your energy to do so and eventually it will explode out of the water and smack you in the face.

True healing begins only when we speak the truth.

True freedom comes only when we speak the truth.

The air seems fresher, our energy levels suddenly soar, and our ability to lead, to love, to live the life we were meant for suddenly seems possible.

0 thoughts on “Speak the Truth

  1. Jon Stolpe says:

    So how did the healing go and the discussion go with your parents once you said those words and released your feelings?

    1. Matt McWilliams says:

      That hasn’t happened yet actually. It won’t with my dad, as he passed away 8 years ago. More to come…

  2. Carol Dublin says:

    I agree with you Matt – except – I do think there needs to be a bit of kindness mixed in with the truth. And sometimes the honesty comes from realizing that you don’t hate your parents (or whoever), but you hate their behavior when… or you hate their attitude. Great post!

    1. Matt McWilliams says:

      Totally. Keep in mind this was an admission to myself first. The wording to others doesn’t have to be the same 🙂

  3. Mark Sieverkropp says:

    So very true. We think we’re helping…or refraining from harm…by not saying what needs to be said. When in fact, we’re hurting. I refrained from saying what I thought to my brother and his wife for a couple years, and then finally did. I was criticized from all sides for finally doing so, but it feels so much better having it out in the open.
    (nothing’s changed from it, but at least we’re not pretending anymore 🙂 )

  4. Ryan Ridgway says:

    This is an inspiring post, and also slams me right in the gut (as it probably will with most people). Speaking the truth is so essential. A “little white lie” will snowball into something much bigger and make you into a person you’re not to try and compensate for what came out of your mouth.

    1. Matt McWilliams says:

      I’m pretty skilled at slamming people in the gut Ryan 🙂

      I’m glad it did so for you.

  5. Joshua Rivers says:

    Definitely true. Definitely hard to do.

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