How to Love

Who needs your love?

Like many people, my wedding included a reading from Chapter 13 of 1 Corinthians (AKA, the “Love Chapter”).

Love is patient. Love is kind. Love in the family and at work.

I’m pretty sure that every Christian wedding since approximately 125 A.D. has required at least portions of this chapter to be read. If it were not read, I am pretty sure the part of the wedding in which the pastor asks, “does anyone have any objections,” would have been followed by someone interjecting that the obligatory reading of 1 Corinthians 13 was missing.

I always took that chapter as “the marriage chapter.” It was great advice for husbands and wives, but it stopped there. I never applied these principles to other forms of leadership or relationships.

Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. Love never fails.

Everything to Everyone

A leader must be everything to everyone.

Nearly two thousand years ago, the apostle Paul wrote:

For though I am free from all men, I have made myself a slave to all, so that I may win more. To the Jews I became as a Jew, so that I might win Jews; To the weak I became weak, that I might win the weak; I have become all things to all men, so that I may by all means save some.
1 Corinthians 9:19-20,22 [emphasis added]

Few would dispute that Paul was a leader. And he became everything to everyone to accomplish his purpose.

A Leader Must be Everything to Everyone

A leader today must do the same thing, with a few exceptions.

To the energetic, you must show energy.

To the nerds, you must talk like a nerd.

To the lighthearted, you must use humor. You must learn to be funny.

To a high D (on the DISC profile), you must communicate like a high D.

So that by all means you may get the best performance out of each individual.

Learning to Not Listen

Listening is a choice. I was at a meeting last night and a curious thought hit me followed by a wave of guilt, confusion, and frustration pouring over me. If I know what I believe about God is true, then why do I continue to do the things I know that I am not supposed […]