Who are your biggest critics? Think about that question for a moment. Who are the people in your life who are most critical of your dreams? Who are the people that leave you feeling depleted, deflated and depressed? In today’s episode you will learn the 1 thing that will silence your critics forever…
We all have had a critic in our lives at one point or another. You know, the type of person that when you leave their presence, your energy is depleted, your joy stripped, and your dreams crushed.
I’m about to share with you the story of one of the biggest mistakes I’ve ever made in business. It was a decision that, in retrospect, began the downward spiral of a company I helped launch. But first, I want to tell you about “The Idiots.”
The story of the 2004 Boston Red Sox baseball team is the stuff of legend. What they did in the postseason only happens in the movies…except that it really happened.
I wanted so desperately to be a great leader.
I was 27 years old, leading a team of twenty people in a fast-growing start-up and I was responsible for about $12,000,000. Only two years prior, I led a team of exactly one (myself). Now, I was in over my head. The pressure was getting to me…and it showed.
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I wanted to be a great leader because in my 27 year old mind, that meant two things:
But I also wanted something deeper, something less tangible than dollar bills or a write-up in the local paper and a nicer office.
I wanted to be seen as the one with all the answers. I wanted to be seen as the problem-solver. If I am being 100% honest, I wanted to be seen as…perfect.
The problem with perfection
That’s where my problems began. Perfection, or more accurately maintaining the illusion of perfection, is a 24/7 job. It required constant attention, all of my energy, and a commitment to avoiding all things risky. It required me to avoid failure at all costs…or to cover it up well if I did mess up.
How do you tune out negative voices and live a life of true joy?
Let’s face it…if you’re achieving anything in life, a large percentage of the voices you hear will be negative. So what do you do with them?
Gertrude Nonterah from Working Christian Mommy shared some great ideas with me recently that I wanted to pass on to you. I love Gertrude’s tagline on her site: On the path to living an unconventionally rich life. When you’re living an unconventionally rich life, the negative voices will come. Here’s what Gertrude had to say about them.
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Some years ago, my mom decided she wanted to venture into entrepreneurship by opening a convenience store. It sounded like a great idea to her until she run it by a friend of hers. This friend told her how this was a terrible idea and that entrepreneurs never really make a profit and that her chances for failure were high.
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I love Cuonzo Martin’s approach to dealing with his critics.
Disclosure: I played golf at the University of Tennessee and this post will be rather partisan. If you’re not a Vols fan, it’s OK. The world needs all kinds of people and God still loves you.
Three weeks ago, it seemed his job as basketball coach at UT was in jeopardy. Then, his team went on a tear, winning five straight games by an average of more than 20 points and almost beating the #1 team in the country. They made the NCAA tournament and faced defeat against Iowa Wednesday night. Then, I watched as something special happened…they came back to win in overtime, outscoring Iowa 14-1 in the last five minutes.
After the game, a reporter asked him: “You showed a little bit of emotion there in the last few minutes, kind of looked up at the administration, celebrating with the guys. Not something I think you usually do. What does this night mean, especially with maybe criticism you faced for the last few months?”
Check out his response:
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Influence isn’t something that you can measure with numbers.
I used to care about things like my Klout score, my Twitter followers, and my blog subscribers. One day twenty people would sign-up, the next day only three. And I’d wonder, “What did I do wrong on the three-subscriber day?”
But a funny thing often happened on those days. Those were the days when I got emails and comments that said:
Your post today changed my life.
I now have the courage to talk to my boss.
I will be a better father today.
When I get to work, I’m going to finally have that talk I’ve needed to have with one of my team members.
Thank you for being there and sharing your life with your friends/fans/followers!
If you could say anything to fear, what would it be?
How about a simple, loud “NO!”
You actually can say anything you choose to fear, because fear only exists in your mind.
The Message translation of James 4 reads:
So let God work his will in you. Yell a loud no to the Devil and watch him scamper. Say a quiet yes to God and he’ll be there in no time. Quit dabbling in sin. (emphasis mine)
Say a loud “NO!” to fear and watch it run away like the little punk that it is. Say “YES!” to God and quit dabbling in fear.
My post title is not a typo. This is a crash course for leaders in how to tear someone down. As I have mentioned numerous times, my first true leadership position happened at the age of 26. I was a punk. I thought I was something special, perhaps even God’s personal gift to mankind…or at […]