From the moment I met my wife, Tara, I gave her an impossible task. I gave her the responsibility of making me happy. The result was disappointment for me, frustration for her, and a relationship that neither of us expected or wanted.
I’d love to write a redemption story here and tell you that Tara and I have the model marriage today, but the reality is that like any marriage, ours is messy, often broken, and too often unfulfilling. And the reason is very simple:
I gave her the responsibility of making me happy rather than living to make her happy. Rather than living to serve her, I placed an unfair burden on her that no human being can live up to…and I didn’t even tell her.
You’ve grown. You’ve matured. You’ve spent the time, put in the sweat and blood, and now you’re where you want to be in life.
Is it time to start re-engaging with old friends and family that you disconnected from to focus on yourself?
The short answer is…maybe.
Yesterday I wrote about how growing personally often means tough decisions. In order to grow, you often must separate yourself from others. You have to remove yourself from negative people, bad influences, and doubters.
That’s the first step towards influence and impact…working on yourself.
When you choose to grow, what becomes of the relationships of the “old you?”
If I know one thing about you, it’s that you are growing. Otherwise, you wouldn’t be reading this. And when you choose personal growth, it will mean making tough decisions like:
Who do I hang out with?
Who do I talk to at the water cooler?
What do I talk about at the family reunion?
And the process can be very painful at times. But you will get through it. Let me tell you how.
I received an email from a friend recently that sparked this post. In fact, it initially sparked my own internal debate that raged inside of me.
When is it OK to interrupt?
When it’s your own voice telling you:
When someone else is telling you: