Welcome to the World, Giovanni Ryan McWilliams
I am thrilled to announce that at 8:03am, August 15, my wife Tara, our daughter Aracelli, and I welcomed our second child into the world. Giovanni Ryan McWilliams came into the world weighing 8 pounds and measuring 21 3/4 inches.
If you want to tweet well wishes to Tara, you may do so at @TaraMMcWilliams (yes, there are two M’s)
Here are some early picture of the little lad.
Hours after being born. I love his big eyes!
Held by his big sister for the first time.
Finally resting at home.
Someone recently asked me an interesting question. “Aren’t you afraid that you’re indoctrinating your daughter?” I answered the question with a question of my own: If you don’t indoctrinate your children, who will?
NOTE: By the time you read this, my wife and I will most likely have welcomed our second child into the world, so naturally the topic of parenting is forefront on my heart and mind right now. That said, much of this post applies to anyone that you may lead.
Why I am Not Afraid of Indoctrinating Children (The Right Way)
I am not afraid at all of indoctrinating our daughter (or our future children).
The reality of the world is that someone is going to do it. Whether it’s the media, the latest pop artist, advertisers, or their friends at school, everyone else is attempting to influence her, so it’s my job to do it the right way.
Has anyone ever spoken words over you that changed the course of your life? Have you ever heard or read something that ignited something on the inside of you that forever changed who you are? Then you know the power of words. And it’s the words that you say, that you declare, that hold the key to unleashing your full potential.
By the time you read this, I might be cradling a newborn baby in my arms. As I write this, my wife, Tara, is due with our second child any day now. So, naturally, my mind is racing with thoughts of all the things I’ll need to do for this child as his or her father.
I recently made a terrible parenting mistake. One that I swore I would never make. I’ve seen far too many well-intentioned people make this mistake. They want to prevent a loved one or someone they lead from feeling pain, making mistakes, embarrassing themselves, or accidentally going against a social norm.
What was that terrible mistake that I made?
I told our four-year old daughter, Aracelli, not to play in the mud. Worse, I got mad at her for doing so.
That may not seem like a big deal to some of you. After all, there are important things to protect. Like our carpet, her clothes, and her lady-like behavior.
Today’s guest is helping in the fight against one of the greatest epidemics of our time: fatherlessness. If you don’t think it’s an epidemic, consider the sobering statistics below.
The US Department of Health/Census reports that 63% of youth suicides are from fatherless homes. 90% of all homeless and runaway children are from fatherless homes, as reported by The US D.H.H.S. and Bureau of the Census. 85% of all children who show behavior disorders come from fatherless homes (Center for Disease Control). 85% of all youths in prison come from fatherless homes (Fulton Co. Georgia, Texas Dept. of Correction).
This is clearly an epidemic. It might be the single biggest problem facing our nation and the world.
The reality is that children need fathers. While we appreciate, honor, and offer as much help as possible to single mothers like my mom, the statistics don’t lie. A nation and a world without fathers is faltering.
Today’s guest doesn’t claim to have all the answers, but he is on a mission to address the problem. He hosts a call-in, text-in and email-in podcast for fatherless children get their life questions answered, in an effort to thwart the ill effects of living without fatherly advice.
Please join me in welcoming to the show, Dr. Shane Wall.
Listen to This Episode
What’s the secret to raising positive kids who believe they can change the world?
Short answer: There is none. There is no one secret to raising children who are positive, who get good grades or who go on to change the world.
But there is one technique that could make a big difference. And it is vastly underused.
Positive declarations are powerful and they even work on kids! (Tweet That) | Share this Graphic on Pinterest | Share on Facebook
To all of the moms out there, Happy Mother’s Day this Sunday!
Parenting is the hardest, most rewarding job there is on this planet. The pay stinks, the hours are long, and you can never truly leave work at work. And, at least in our home, most of the work falls on the mom. So to all of the moms and especially to my wife and mother, thank you.
With that said, what kind of mom (or dad) are you? Lily Kreitinger shares the six types of moms below. Although they are about moms specifically, I think you dads will relate. Take it away Lily…
I Have Turned into My Mother!
Two weeks ago I went to Nashville, Tennessee for a LifePlan with Chris LoCurto. When I got home, my six-year old daughter asked about our trip. I told her I had ice cream for dessert. Sweets really affect my mood, so she looked at me and said “Did you turn into Monster Mom? I am so going to your doctor’s appointment and telling on you, Missy!” At that point, I thought, “Oh, no! I just had an encounter with Mini Me.”
Continue Reading and Comment
If you don’t indoctrinate your children, who will?
I was recently asked by an acquaintance if I was afraid I was indoctrinating our three-year old daughter, Aracelli. I responded with a question of my own, the one I ask above.
No, I am not afraid of indoctrinating our daughter. In fact, I am intentional about it.
You have to choose who will indoctrinate your kids. You…or everyone else. (Tweet That) | Share this Graphic on Pinterest | Share on Facebook
The media is going to indoctrinate your kids into thinking that girls should act like sluts (Harsh word? Maybe, but I submit Miley Cyrus as proof). That’s how much of the world is going to tell our daughter how to act. And it’s going to indoctrinate boys into finding it attractive.
So by all means, indoctrinate them to think otherwise.
That is, unless you want a pregnant 16-year old with her third STD. In that case, go right ahead and let the television and her friends indoctrinate her.
Big food corporations are going to try to indoctrinate your kids (and you) into craving foods that kill you. Even worse, they will make you think they are healthy.
Have you ever felt completely overwhelmed at life?
I have. And for the past three years, it happens like clockwork this time of year.
Our little girl is almost three. And every year I am reminded of that amazing day when she was born. As we plan the party, choose a cake, and wrap her gifts, my thoughts turn to the day she joined the world. It was a day that overwhelmed me. It continues to overwhelm me today.
How do you overcome overwhelm? By focusing on these 3 things. (Tweet That) | Share this Graphic on Pinterest | Share on Facebook
My father passed away from ALS (Amyotrophic lateral sclerosis, better known as Lou Gehrig’s Disease) eight years ago at the age of 51. His form of ALS was a rare one, so rare that they initially misdiagnosed him with Parkinson’s. His mind deteriorated before his body, rather than the other way around.
For months, I watched as the man that I knew slowly left us. We would have conversations and he would repeat the same things multiple times and ask the same questions of me repeatedly. As hard as it was, I would give almost anything for just one more of those conversations.
This was a message that I cheered loudly…in my own house.
Dave Ramsey’s topic is student loan debt, but the underlying message is all about leadership. His advice can apply to any aspect of leadership, as a parent or in the workplace.
Loving your children or those who work with you means guiding them well. And that means helping them avoid stupid decisions…
Continue Reading and Comment