How Our Expectations Create our Reality

In every part of life, we usually get what we expect.

If you wake up expecting your boss to be a jerk to you, he probably will be. If you drive to the gym expecting to be unfocused during your workout, you’ll find a gym full of squirrels. If you expect your child to act up at just the wrong time, guess what he or she does?

You get what you expect, good or bad.

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Years ago I heard a story about a store clerk. I am almost certain that I heard this story from Zig Ziglar, because I can just hear it in his voice.

Whether it was him or someone else, it illustrates how our expectations create our reality so well.

How to Let Go of Expectations & Get Your Confidence Back After Defeat

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You had great expectations, but you fell short. Now what?


How do you let go of expectations and regain your confidence?

If you missed part one yesterday, check it out here.

As promised yesterday, today I give you my five steps for letting go of expectations and getting your confidence back.

  1. Give yourself grace. Be nice to yourself. Don’t call yourself a name or tell others how pathetic you are. Talk to yourself as you would a hurting friend. It really is going to be OK.

Staying Confident While Letting Go of Expectations

There is a fine line that you must walk between being confident and not holding on to unrealistic expectations.

We all must balance the two and in a way do a delicate little dance in our minds every moment of our lives.

Staying Confident While Letting Go of Expectations
NOTE: For my audio listeners who made it this far wondering, “where is my audio option?” there is none today. I am writing this from a train en route from Boston to New York and honestly don’t want to get funny looks recording it on the train.

Past successes

If you’re a long-time reader, you know that I grew up playing competitive golf. During each tournament, I would constantly call on my memory bank of past shots. Each shot, in some way, reminded me of another similar shot that I had pulled off successfully. Same club, same wind, same situation, often even the exact same location on the same hole.