Who do You Really Want to Be?

Growing up I’d always been a Tiger Woods fan (until more recent indiscretions changed that). As an aspiring professional golfer, I spent hundreds of hours studying his every move. How he swung the club, how he practiced, how he worked out. I sought to model my game after his.

Who do you really want to be?

There was one giant problem with this strategy, though.

I wasn’t Tiger Woods. (And, surprisingly, I am still not.)

We have different body types, different styles of play, and very different approaches to the mental side of the game. Sure, there were things that I could learn from him, but trying to be like him was a big mistake.

How to Let Go of Expectations & Get Your Confidence Back After Defeat

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You had great expectations, but you fell short. Now what?


How do you let go of expectations and regain your confidence?

If you missed part one yesterday, check it out here.

As promised yesterday, today I give you my five steps for letting go of expectations and getting your confidence back.

  1. Give yourself grace. Be nice to yourself. Don’t call yourself a name or tell others how pathetic you are. Talk to yourself as you would a hurting friend. It really is going to be OK.

Staying Confident While Letting Go of Expectations

There is a fine line that you must walk between being confident and not holding on to unrealistic expectations.

We all must balance the two and in a way do a delicate little dance in our minds every moment of our lives.

Staying Confident While Letting Go of Expectations
NOTE: For my audio listeners who made it this far wondering, “where is my audio option?” there is none today. I am writing this from a train en route from Boston to New York and honestly don’t want to get funny looks recording it on the train.

Past successes

If you’re a long-time reader, you know that I grew up playing competitive golf. During each tournament, I would constantly call on my memory bank of past shots. Each shot, in some way, reminded me of another similar shot that I had pulled off successfully. Same club, same wind, same situation, often even the exact same location on the same hole.