What do you really want to be? What do you really want to do? What do you really want to have?
Those are three powerful questions that you probably rarely ask yourself. More likely you say things like:
“If only I ____.”
“If I could just ____.”
“I’d settle for ____.”
And you sell yourself short. You aim for mediocrity…and that is exactly what you get. But there is always a gnawing deep in your soul to be more, to do more, to have more.
The problem with big visions
Martin Luther King, Jr. said:
Faith is taking the first step even when you don’t see the whole staircase.
The problem with thinking big, though, is that the first step is often invisible. You can’t even imagine a starting point. All you need to do is find the first step and you are on your way to a life of influence, purpose, excellence, and abundance.
The first step
The first step to being what you are called to be, doing what you see yourself doing, and living the life you dream of living is simple, but requires focus:
Act as if
That is it.
Whatever you want to be, act as if you already are that person.
If you want to be a business owner but don’t have the money yet, act like successful business owners act. Learn to think big, learn about hiring, leading, and budgeting. And most importantly, own your job. Become an owner at whatever your job is. If you are the leader of a department, treat that department like your business. If you are a bus driver, treat your route like a business. That means being personally invested in every detail. Every success is a high and every failure is devastating. The daily ups and downs of being a business owner often feel like life and death. Learn to think that way before you ever start your own business.
If you dream of being a CEO, act like it now. Learn to talk like a CEO (hint: it’s usually in bullets, very on-topic, and slower than you think…CEOs think things through). Walk like a CEO, write like a CEO, and go to the same functions and seminars that CEOs you know are going to.
Warning: Acting like a CEO doesn’t mean taking his or her parking spot. While that might be funny and I would love to see his or her reaction on video, don’t do it.
Like a child
Essentially, I am telling you to remember what it was like when you were a child. Indeed, I am telling you to make believe.
The dictionary defines “make believe” as:
a pretending that what is not real is real
That doesn’t just apply to when we wore superhero capes and flew through our neighborhoods at breakneck speeds. It’s more than that. Even now, as an adult you can see what is not real. You can imagine it. And you can act as if it’s true.
- See it. Right now or later today when you have twenty minutes or more, pick one thing that you want to be, do, or have. To be a best-selling author, to be a veterinarian, to adopt children, to _____.
- Feel it. Now live that out in your mind. Don’t skimp on the details. Take your time. What actions do you take each day? How do you walk, talk, and carry yourself? Who do you hang out with? What is your schedule like?
- Be it. Do it. Go live out what you just saw to the best of your ability. Act as if it’s reality. Make believe.
- Own it. I’m not one who falls into the “Name it and claim it” crowd, but I do know that it is almost impossible to be, do or have anything that we don’t believe we can be, do or have. Belief is always the first and most critical ingredient (followed oh so closely by training). Every action starts with belief. Belief in the possibilities. Belief in our abilities. Belief in others.
That is how you act as if.
How can you act as if with one of your dreams?