In years past, I’ve often shared my goals with just about anyone who will hear (or read) them. I’ve shouted them from the rooftops as if to say, “Look at my incredible ambition.” But I’m no longer doing that. Here’s why.
Why We Share Our Goals
There are many reasons why we might share our goals with others, but I believe there are three primary reasons.
1. We are looking for accountability.
This is the most common reason we share our goals, rather it be with a small group of people or publicly on our blog or elsewhere.
What better way to hold ourselves accountable than to share our goals with hundreds (or more) of people, right? It’s one thing to fall short of our goals when only we know them. It’s another thing entirely when others are expecting you to achieve them, rooting for you, or waiting for you to fall.
December is here again. This means that, like many of you, I have been spending time recently reflecting on 2015 and making plans and goals for 2016. As I’ve been thinking about my goals, I’ve realized that traditional goal setting doesn’t work…at least not the way that the majority of people do it. But there […]
The words you say determine your attitude (how you feel) and your altitude (how much you will achieve). Are your words inspiring you and equipping you? Or are they limiting and crippling you? The good news is the choice is yours.
I read an interesting proverb recently. It demonstrated clearly the power that our words have on our mindsets, our feelings, and our performance.
Blow on a spark and up it flares, spit on it and out it goes; both are the effects of your mouth.
Your words can light a fire or put it out.
Confession time: I struggle mightily with downtime. Like many in today’s world, I am constantly on the go, whizzing from one thing to the next. Go, go, go. Work, work, work. Can you relate? If so, today I’ll share seven ways you can reclaim your downtime.
1. Decide that it is Possible
The first step to reclaiming your downtime is to believe that you can do it.
If you go through life believing that you don’t control your own schedule, you will never control it. If you go through each day thinking that you’ll never truly have downtime, you won’t.
Are you living up to your full potential? If not, why aren’t you? Odds are, you have unknowingly developed habits that are actually holding you back. In today’s interview I talk with someone who has learned how to recognize, confront and overcome these damaging habits.
In today’s episode, our guest and I talk about:
- Getting past our distractions
- What is the “joy route”
- The effect of limiting beliefs
- Learning to love and accept yourself
- The importance of self care
About Today’s Guest
Today’s guest is named one of the Top 100 Women to Watch in Wellness by Mind Body Green, and labeled a modern thought leader on the rise by Café Truth. She is an inspirational author, speaker, travel writer, and life coach who left her successful career in advertising to follow her heart and be a writer and the best selling author of Find Your Happy, Find Your Happy Daily Mantras, and the new book, Adventures For Your Soul: 21 Ways to Transform Your Habits and Reach Your Full Potential.
What is the best time to exercise? That one question has stopped more people from getting healthy than just about anything else. It’s a question that has such a simple answer, too. And it applies to so much more than exercising. What is the best time to do anything important? That’s today’s topic.
There is a trend that I’ve noticed lately among fellow bloggers and podcasters involving sharing their morning routine. I appreciate the intention behind this, but it leads to the inherent problem of their readers and listeners trying to copy their routine.
I had the day all planned out. We arrived at Sea World right on time, all thirteen of us. First we could watch the dolphins, then ride our first roller coaster, then later in the day at 5:00pm sharp, the whale show. Everything was going perfectly…until the rain came.
Ten minutes into the whale show, the skies darkened and then opened with a vengeance. The radar showed that the rain would not let up for hours. The show was cancelled and the day, it seemed, was ruined.
If you are like almost everyone I know, there is something you’ve always wanted to do, but someone talked you out of it. Someone told you that you’re not talented enough. Someone told you that you’re too old or too young. Too slow, too stupid, or too poor. And now, you’re left wondering what might have been. Now what?
Catherine Lanigan was like that. All throughout her young life, she considered herself a talented writer. Her teachers told she was gifted and maybe that she could make it someday as a writer.
So she entered college full of hope. She even registered for a senior level class in creative writing taught by a visiting professor from Harvard. When she wrote her very first short story for the class, the professor asked to see her.
He was the prototypical college English professor. He was 6′ 6″ tall, wore tweed coat with elbow patches and the horn-rimmed glasses. He also had the smug look of a tenured English professor (sorry if that is you, but I had three such professors in college and they all had a smug look).
For 36 years, I blamed someone or something else for most of my problems. For a brief moment in time, when things went wrong, it felt good to pass the buck. It was a relief to blame others and not take responsibility for my problems. Here’s what it got me…
That’s it. It got me nothing. It led me nowhere.
Why We Play the Blame Game
But it was so easy, though. And that is why we play the blame game. It feels easier in the moment.
I’m currently running my fourth business. The first one failed miserably. So did the second one. And the third. So, why then is this one so successful? It’s, in part, because I knew how to come back…and what to do next.
The Problem with Failure
The problem with failure is that most people handle it wrong. They respond in the wrong way and then change course. Rather than trying the same thing again, they think they have to try something new.
That makes sense, of course. When you fall flat on your face, instinct tells us to avoid whatever it was that led to that pain. But we should do the exact opposite. We should try it again.
Studies show us that is exactly what successful people do. One study, done by Lewis Schiff, author of the book Business Brilliant, shows that self-made millionaires have at least three significant business failures in their lives. Sounds familiar to me.