If You Want to be Somebody Else, Change Your Mind

Everything starts in your mind. Every action starts with a thought. Every invention starts with an idea. Every outcome starts with a vision. Everything starts in your mind.

Sister Hazel Change your mind

Have you ever wanted to be somebody else?

Not literally another person, but someone better?

A better leader. A better father. A more focused person. Someone who is making a bigger impact and leaving a legacy.

Have you ever wanted to be somebody else? Then take these words from the band Sister Hazel to heart.

In 2000, that song was in my head all summer. That summer also happened to be the summer that I won nearly every golf tournament that I entered.

I didn’t fully grasp it at the time, but the lyrics to the song reminded me that I had the power to control my thoughts. When negative thoughts crept in on the golf course, I had to change them. If I wanted to be a more positive person on the course, I had to choose to change my mind.

Who do you want to be? If you aren’t that person today, change your mind.

How to make more money – the first step

If you want to make more money, change your mind. Quit playing the victim. Quit telling yourself the lies:

  • The little man never gets ahead
  • It takes money to make money
  • “This is all they pay”
  • Only greedy people get ahead
  • Self-made millionaires are the exception, not the rule.

The little man does get ahead. Many successful businesses were started with less than $1,000. What you are making is not all “they” pay and if it is, find another “they” or start your own business. Greedy people rarely get ahead. And 85% of millionaires are self-made. You can be, too.

How to be nicer, more assertive, more ____

If you want be to a nicer person or a more assertive leader or more passionate about your work, change your mind. Believe that you can be. Stop believing the lies that say:

  • My father was violent, so I will be too.
  • My mother was always so quiet. I just take after her.
  • My whole family is just negative. I guess it just rubs off on me.
  • I can take the abuse. It doesn’t bother me all that much.

You can break the cycle your father started or continued. You don’t have to follow in your mother’s footsteps. You can choose to ignore the negativity of your family. You don’t have to take the abuse.

Believe that you can be a cycle-breaker. Decide to be whatever it is you want to be. Decide what emotions you are going to display. Decide what character traits you will develop.

Then tell yourself every day, every hour, every minute that you are those things.

  • I am nice.
  • I am assertive.
  • I am positive.
  • I am passionate about my work.
  • I am not a punching bag.
  • I am attracting others by my personality.
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How to start a business

If you want to start your own business, change your mind.  Here’s how to start a business:

  1. Decide to start a business.
  2. Everything else follows.

Stop telling yourself every reason why you cannot do it. Just do it.

Do stupid stuff. Take some risks. Break some things. Screw up a lot. Waste some money. Fail. Fail. Fail. Learn along the way.

If you want to be somebody else, change your mind.

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Question: Share in the comments below how you are going to change your mind today. What negative thoughts do you need to replace? You can leave a comment by clicking here.

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  • As a positive thinker I’m pretty good at not allowing negative thoughts to enter my life too much and if they do creep in due to fear I pause and put in positive ones instead. Although lately the “What if my book doesn’t sell once it’s on Amazon?” is definitely a negative that’s like a boomerang. I need to send it off on a different flight pattern…

    • I always like to ask myself this…what IF it doesn’t? What if only 100 people read the FIRST book you write? Or the second?

      Guess what happens when you do write a bestseller? That first one sells like crazy.

      Keep writing.

  • Great advice, Matt. I think we are often held back, unconsciously, by the concern of “what others might think if….” – It’s essential to break free of that mindset.

    The question [I got it from Nightingale Conant] “What one thing would you do…if you KNEW you could not fail?” is a powerful one that might help unlock the necessary motivation and self-belief for any readers here struggling with this.

    To steal your own phrase – keep changing the world! Thanks Matt!

    • I love that quote Rick. It’s something I ask myself often!

  • Fantastic post, Matt. Awesome. I recently heard Tony Robbins talk about how he “primes” for each and every day. What steps have you taken in your daily routine to have a positive, optiomistic outlook each day?

    • Prayer time

      Always getting some exercise, even if it’s 10 minutes.
      Gratitude journal
      Some reading – sometimes as little as 5 minutes.
      Time with family.

      That is my morning routine.