The Hidden Danger of Making Excuses

The worst part of making excuses isn’t the missed opportunities. It isn’t the guilt you might feel afterwards for lying to yourself. It’s not the money that you will lose, the relationships that will end, or the broken dreams you’ll never fulfill. The worst part of making excuses, the hidden danger, is that you eventually start to believe them.

Danger of making excuses

The longer you make excuses, the more you actually start to believe them. The longer you tell any lie, the most likely it is that someday you will no longer tell it as a lie, but as the truth.

You no longer cringe when you realize that what you are saying is false. The conviction you once felt disappears. The lie becomes the truth. The excuse becomes reality.

Do you want to get well?

Two thousand years ago, there was a man who had been paralyzed for thirty-eight years. 38 years!

I have a mental picture of this man. Old, decrepit, skin and bones. Helpless, defeated, and uninspiring. In those days, people like him were often referred to as “invalids.” Think about that term for a moment. In-valid. The opposite “valid.” In other words, he was worthless and useless.

For thirty-eight years, that is what he probably thought of himself. That he was inferior, worthless, and useless.

Every day, this man wished for healing. Every day, he laid by the pool in Jerusalem that was known to heal people when the waters were stirred. But, he never got in.

Enter Jesus. A man known to heal. A man known to show compassion on the hurting, the sick, and the lame. A man known to have the power of God in Him.

And what does Jesus ask this man?

He asks, “Do you want to get well?”

What? Does he want to get well? What a terrible question. This guy has been paralyzed for thirty-eight years. He has missed out on the joys that most of us take for granted and Jesus has the nerve to ask that question?

The question makes no sense until the man responds. He begins to make excuses.

“No one helps me.”

“Someone else always cuts in front of me.”

“I’ve been this way for too long. I don’t know any other way.”

The question was entirely appropriate. Do you want to get well or do you want to continue to identify with your excuses? Do you want to get well or do you want to believe the lies you’ve told yourself for so long?

Do you really want to get well?

Do you really want your life to change?

Do you really want to live out your dreams?

Do you really want to start that business?

Do you really want to write that book?

Do you really want to teach?

Do you really want your marriage to last?

Do you really want to be a great leader?

Do you really want to impact other people?

Do you really want to change the world?

Do you really want to ______?

Or would you rather believe the lies?

The easier path

It’s much easier to believe the excuses. It’s much easier to continue to identify with whatever lies you’ve told yourself for so long.

Getting well is sometimes painful. If you’ve ever had surgery to correct something wrong with your body, you know that the healing phase is often more painful than it was pre-surgery. Giving up the excuses is the same way. It can hurt.

But it is absolutely necessary if you want to be well.

Years ago, I gave up on a dream. Less than two years after ranking 14th in the nation in college golf, I gave it up because of an injury.

The injury was fixable with surgery. I would have spent a full year in rehab and the road to wellness would have been long and hard. The pain, I was told, would be excruciating for months. But on the other side of that pain was freedom. On the other side of that pain was the ability to chase my dreams without interference.

I did not have that surgery. Instead, I gave up on my dream.


Today, I don’t regret that I didn’t achieve my dream of playing on the PGA Tour. I regret not trying. I regret not going through the pain.  I regret not wanting to get well. I regret lying to myself and believing the excuses.

Don’t live your life with any regrets that come from excuses. Don’t believe the lies.

Choose to get well. Choose to live free.

Do you want to get well? 

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  • The pain of regret always hurts worse than stepping out on faith. I hate asking myself, “What if…?” The silver lining is that the next time a similar situation arises, I usually do what it takes to overcome that fear. It’s much more comforting to know that I have tried, even it doesn’t go as well as I would have liked. When this happens I can reflect on that experience and plan what I would do differently the next time a similar situation arises.
    Thanks for another wonderful post Matt, and we all know you could still smoke us in golf!

    • HAHA. I haven’t played in years, but yes, I probably could. :)

  • Randall

    I was sharing a Bible study for the nursing home this morning. While I was speaking of the lame man, the activity director mentioned excuses. We sang the song about excuses. Only a few minutes afterwards I read your blog. Pretty amazing.

    • Wow Randall, that is awesome.

      What is the song about excuses? You’ve piqued my curiosity :)

  • Amazing story, Matt. I have given up on dreams in the past, but only to find new, more exciting dreams. The problem, however, is that it is always a long hard road before you get back on track. Thanks for the inspiring words today.

  • Guest

    Great honesty. I’ve given up dreams all my life for self doubt and fear. Only know am I starting to rebuild my dreams and working towards them.

  • Putt

    Great honesty. I’ve given up on my dreams all my life because of fear and self doubt. Only now am I starting to recognize it and rebuilding my dreams.

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