Right off the bat here, let me be clear about something. I can’t stand Nickelback. Their music is repetitive, unoriginal, and if you’ve heard one song, you’ve heard them all. And that is exactly why they are one of the best-selling bands of all time. We can learn a lot from them.
I actually had no idea until I looked them up on Wikipedia recently that Nickelback was as popular as they are. I’ve never met someone who actually admitted they like the band (except my 15-year old nephew and the poor kid just doesn’t know any better).
But someone is buying their music. As in hundreds of millions of people. And no road trip is complete without me hearing at least one of their songs on the radio as I furiously reach for the “SCAN” button.
They are everywhere. And for good reasons:
Someone recently asked me an interesting question. “Aren’t you afraid that you’re indoctrinating your daughter?” I answered the question with a question of my own: If you don’t indoctrinate your children, who will?
NOTE: By the time you read this, my wife and I will most likely have welcomed our second child into the world, so naturally the topic of parenting is forefront on my heart and mind right now. That said, much of this post applies to anyone that you may lead.
Why I am Not Afraid of Indoctrinating Children (The Right Way)
I am not afraid at all of indoctrinating our daughter (or our future children).
The reality of the world is that someone is going to do it. Whether it’s the media, the latest pop artist, advertisers, or their friends at school, everyone else is attempting to influence her, so it’s my job to do it the right way.
What do people like Tony Robbins, John Maxwell, Dave Ramsey, Chalene Johnson and Andy Andrews do at the beginning of every year? This free PDF from Michael Hyatt will show you:
In this book, more than 30 high achievers who each answered this question:
“What is the most important thing you do at the beginning of each year to set yourself up for your best year ever?”
If you don’t indoctrinate your children, who will?
I was recently asked by an acquaintance if I was afraid I was indoctrinating our three-year old daughter, Aracelli. I responded with a question of my own, the one I ask above.
No, I am not afraid of indoctrinating our daughter. In fact, I am intentional about it.
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The media is going to indoctrinate your kids into thinking that girls should act like sluts (Harsh word? Maybe, but I submit Miley Cyrus as proof). That’s how much of the world is going to tell our daughter how to act. And it’s going to indoctrinate boys into finding it attractive.
So by all means, indoctrinate them to think otherwise.
That is, unless you want a pregnant 16-year old with her third STD. In that case, go right ahead and let the television and her friends indoctrinate her.
Big food corporations are going to try to indoctrinate your kids (and you) into craving foods that kill you. Even worse, they will make you think they are healthy.
This was a message that I cheered loudly…in my own house.
Dave Ramsey’s topic is student loan debt, but the underlying message is all about leadership. His advice can apply to any aspect of leadership, as a parent or in the workplace.
Loving your children or those who work with you means guiding them well. And that means helping them avoid stupid decisions…
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Q: What’s the best way to get your team involved in the holiday spirit?
A: Make corporate giving a team effort.
So often, companies that do give, do so without much fanfare internally. Even worse, they do so without involving their team. The CEO or other person decides who to give to, writes a check, and it’s done with. Rinse and repeat next year.
But the better way to do it is to involve your team. Get them excited about what the company is doing to support the community, help the needy, and in the process, spread the word about the company. (Yes, community involvement can be a marketing strategy…and no, that isn’t evil).
Top 5 benefits to involving your team in giving
1. They buy-in to the giving
When they are a part of choosing the recipients, everyone rallies around the cause.
My generation is soft.
I am thirty-four years old and most of my peers are soft. I suppose that thirty-five hours a week of television, a welfare state, and a decade or two of “role models” dressing like tramps and being more known for their drunken exploits will do that to a generation.
And we’re only getting softer. Less responsible. Less motivated. Less determined. Less impactful.
At the risk of starting a political debate (please don’t) the most troubling part of the president’s healthcare law had nothing to do with freedom, constitutionality, or cost. It’s the provision that allows offspring (notice I didn’t say “children”) to stay on their parents’ plans until the age of twenty-six. Twenty-six years old! They’re twenty-six years old and they still get to, per a government mandate, stay on Mommy and Daddy’s health insurance. Give me a break!
But that is no excuse for this generation. And there is still hope.
My generation must learn from Sugay Ray Leonard.
As a child, Sugar Ray Leonard would wake up just like all of the other kids. He would get dressed for school just like all of the other kids. He would walk to the bus stop just like all the other kids. But right there, as the bus pulled up, is where the similarities between Sugar Ray Leonard and all the other kids end.
One of the most important things you can do as a leader is to make sure your team members’ families are on board.
They need to buy in to your mission and support the family member’s efforts to help the organization.
14 ways to get a team member’s family to love you and feel a part of the team:
1. Give a raise…at a non-traditional time.
Like today, for instance. Or next Tuesday. Just make it outside of your normal raise routine (i.e. annual review).
2. Write a handwritten note to the team member.
News flash…people share notes like this with their families.
3. Write the family a note.
What can you not stop doing?
That is one of the critical questions presented in Jon Acuff’s new book, Start: Punch Fear in the Face, Escape Average and Do Work that Matters.
I pre-ordered the book more than a month ago and what I expected was something along the lines of, “Matt (I expected Jon to write the book personally to me), you know you’ve always wanted to _______, so what are you waiting for?”
But that’s not what I got at all. And that was disappointing at first. I assumed I was missing out on something, that I was missing my calling, and that this book would show me how to start something new and revolutionary.
But it didn’t.
If you are anything like me, you have to be reminded of this every 6-8 minutes.
I vacillate between wanting to change the world and wanting to be independently wealthy by the end of next Tuesday. It’s often a confusing place to be.
The thing that I finally realized as I pondered this quote for some time was that the word “rich” might have nothing to do with money. Oh, if you make a difference in a commercial way (Apple, Google, and Dave Ramsey come to mind), you will be rewarded financially.
But I also have to remember daily how rich I am when I come home to a smiling and running toddler yelling my name. Or when it seems my world is crashing around me and I have a wife who is right there with me. Or when I break the heart of the One who created me only to remember that He redeemed me nearly 2000 years ago.
When you serve your family, you are making a difference. When you honor your marriage or a business contract, you are making a difference. And when you receive grace, refuse to wallow in self-pity, and go out and show others how to do the same, you are making a difference.